Make More Mistakes
We all want to be around people who make us feel good about ourselves. Even when they are critical of our performance they always appreciate the performer. When we judge someone else we lump the doer and the deed together. We do this to others because we do it to ourselves, and it is a HUGE MISTAKE. You are not your actions; you are that which acts and you act based on your best level of awareness at that time. We view mistakes as some kind of moral or intellectual flaw and the opposite is actually true. Mistakes are just not the ONLY way we learn; they are, according to Thomas J. Watson, the former president of IBM, the secret to success. “Would you like me to give you a formula for success?” he said, “it’s quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure.”
Failure is not the problem, but fear of failure is. When we judge others we create fear and every emotion has an attraction. We mistakenly believe that by putting attention on failures we will somehow push ourselves and others to achieve more success, and this is not true. Thoughts create pictures, pictures generate emotions and emotions have attraction. If you tell your young child not to spill the milk at the dinner table, what is the next thing that is about to happen? If you admonish yourself not to do anything it is that thing you will most likely do.