You are the decisive element

December 15, 2021 Emotional Intelligence  No comments

I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element.  It is my personal approach that creates the climate.  It is my daily mood that makes the weather.   I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous.  I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration.  I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.  In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or dehumanized...

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Defeat Stress at the Source

December 15, 2021 Emotional Intelligence

Feeling stressed this holiday season? What I do know with absolute certainty is that the stress you are feeling is not coming at you but coming from you.   I completely understand that you may absolutely disagree with this statement and it might even anger you.   I am willing to possibly offend you to help you.  It has taken me 30 years of “unlearning” to be able to teach the truth of this awareness, and it is the key to creating a more peace-full and productive workplace...

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Are you winning the rat race?

December 15, 2021 Affective LeadershipEmotional IntelligencePeer Powered PerformancePositive DevianceTraining  No comments

The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you‘re still a rat.”

Lily Tomlin

Every day is a contest.  We compete for increasing market share, advancing our position, receiving the recognition we deserve, the customers we need and the respect we long for.  But how do we measure our success?  Is there a finish line or benchmark?  Do all stakeholders agree on the metrics?

When Vineet Nayar took the helm of HCLT his greatest challenge was not their failures but their successes...

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Our Inescapable Illusions

December 15, 2021 Affective LeadershipEmotional IntelligencePeer Powered Performance

inescapable illusions

“A bat and ball cost $1.10. The bat costs $1 more than the ball.
How much does the ball cost?”

The vast majority of people respond quickly and confidently, insisting the ball costs 10 cents. This answer is both incredibly obvious and utterly wrong. (The correct answer is five cents for the ball and $1.05 for the bat...

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Do Peers Perpetuate Poor Performance?

December 15, 2021 Affective LeadershipEmotional IntelligencePeer Powered PerformanceSpirit at Work  2 comments

Peer Pressure poor perfromance

This is part three in a five part examination of the forces that keep individuals and institutions caught a cycle of stress trapped by unexamined assumptions and ill designed solutions.  Part one examined the role of self in our illusory imprisonment, two the often subconscious part played by supervisors in the continuing incarceration and section three delves into the irresistible influence exerted on us by our peers...

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NO-NONSENSE NONPROFIT SERVICES

December 15, 2021 Affective LeadershipAssociation InsightsEmotional Intelligence

In the last fourteen years, Red Shoe Solutions (RSS) has been responsible for planning and directing dozens of large successful events in seventeen U.S. states, Canada and Europe, serving members from over forty nations in total. We select our clients carefully to ensure the highest level of service and the best professional fit. 

Our experienced team provides complete administrative services, consulting and event management for nonprofits who take governance seriously...

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Part 4: The Power of Peer Pull

December 15, 2021 Affective LeadershipEmotional IntelligencePeer Powered Performance  One comment

positive peer pull

This is part four in a five part examination of the forces that keep individuals and institutions caught in a cycle of stress trapped by unexamined assumptions and ill designed solutions.  Part one examined the role of self in our illusory imprisonment, two the often subconscious part played by supervisors in the continuing incarceration and section three delves into the irresistible influence exerted on us by our peers.  Chapter four introduces the value of using the Positive Peer Pull of “Valu...

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