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Should you praise effort or ability? December 15, 2021 Emotional Intelligence

We are torn between two masters. On one hand we like to learn. We are born inquisitive, adventurous and unafraid. Then we are taught that mistakes are bad. Not only are the mistakes bad but there is obviously something wrong with the person who makes them. The solution then is to confine ourselves to activities at which we are already proficient and blame other people or situations for everything else. Problem solved. Except of course that it isn’t.

Mistakes in fact are physiologically th...