Category Emotional Intelligence

Change belongs not to the catalyst but the community December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Peer Powered Performance, Positive Deviance

“There are none so blind as those who will not see.”

Contrary to popular belief this phrase popularized by Mathew Henry in his commentary on the Whole Bible (1708) is not a quote from the bible. This kind of misattribution, as I am learning from winner of the 2002 Nobel Memorial Prize in Economic Sciences, Daniel Kahneman in Thinking Fast and Slow, is not at all uncommon. We are all thoroughly convinced of many, many connections that are not true.

One such misbelief that is shared by most p...

Overcoming the dreaded Sales Aversion December 15, 2021 Emotional Intelligence

I am currently re-listening to Daniel Pink’s To Sell is Human.

Daniel Pink; To Sell is Human I like to listen when I run and I find I get something new every time I listen. This is round six for me which brings up several new ideas and one concern. I will start with the concern because I was always taught to eat my vegetables first. It could be that most people are much quicker at absorbing ideas, applying the knowledge and changing habits than I am...

Are you a Champion for Change? December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Peer Powered Performance

There are always payoffs for the lies we tell ourselves and the easiest to maintain are those we share with others which carries the appropriate scientific title of “Bandwagon Effect”. The Bandwagon that I had worked hard to be part of was that of the Charismatic Champion of Change. The fallacy was that regardless of my mastery of the topic or skills as a professional communicator that change does not happen from the top down or outside in but must be generated by champions from within.

Th...

Is “Understanding” your Enemy December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Emotional Intelligence

The last several years I have been hooked on the “Dans” – Pink, Kahneman and Ariely. They all seem to come around to something Malcom Gladwell shared in an interview for The Costco Connection. He said “my last three books in particular have made me suspicious of the way that all of us as human beings react to the world.” He went on to say “The assumptions we carry around in our heads aren’t very good. Our first impressions of things can sometimes be really terrible.” His new...

Are you using Power or Force? December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Emotional Intelligence One comment

Every picture we create in our minds has a magnetic power. These “Attractive Powers” have been measured and quantified through the use of behavioral kinesiology as described in books including Power Vs. Force by Dr. David Hawkins M.D., Ph.D. Power is universal and energizing, while the use of Force always creates its own resistance and is a negative drain on ourselves, our organizations and the world as a whole...