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Lessons from the Emergency Room December 15, 2021 Emotional Intelligence No comments

Our holiday weekend started out like most. The lawn was moved, cars washed, the deck washed for a family gathering in the afternoon. Then it hit. It sounded something akin to the primal roar of a wounded animal, followed by the telltale “splash” of someone’s innards being turned inside out. A rough experience for anyone, but particularly so for someone just a couple years short of his 90th birthday. My father in law – “The Hammer”.

This continued for close to an hour before we headed off to ...

Are we conditioned to be “Powerless”? December 15, 2021 Emotional Intelligence No comments

We are not unlike the immense power of an 8000 lb circus elephant that is absolutely restrained by a small piece of twine and a stick that they place in the ground themselves. They are conditioned to believe in their powerlessness in the same way we condition ourselves.

When an elephant is a baby, a manacle is placed around one leg attached to a huge chain that is wrapped around the base of a large tree. Over and over again the youngster strains against his bondage but to no avail.

Gradually ...

I have the least amount of skill in the organization December 15, 2021 Emotional Intelligence No comments

“I have the least amount of skill in the organization”.

We might expect to hear this from a new employee, but how would you feel if you were to hear this from the CEO of your hospital? Would you be inspired or think “he should be fired”? The answer to this question says a great deal about your understanding of the role of today’s most influential leaders...

Why “Change the Buzz” Bees? December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Association Insights, Emotional Intelligence, Peer Powered Performance

Because “Bee-ing” is the single most important, and least understood step in any change involving complex social interactions. Consider these statistics as evidence of our misconceptions about change.

95% of those who lose weight on a diet regain it.
25% of people abandon New Year’s resolutions within one week and 60% do so within six months.
The average person makes the same resolution 10 times without success.
70% of organizational change initiatives ultimately fail.

These exam...

Leading without Positional Power December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Diagnostics, Emotional Intelligence, Peer Powered Performance, Positive Deviance

The Starfish and the Spider+Employees First

Leaderless organizations are everywhere. If you don’t find ways to include everyone on your team, you may soon be the one sitting on the bench.

After reading a bio of one of my business heroes, Vineet Nayar I decided to read his favorite book The Starfish and the Spider: The Unstoppable Power of Leaderless Organizations by Ori Brafman and Rod A. Beckstrom. Vineet was the CEO of HCL Technologies at the time and has been recognized as one of the top business thinkers in the world today...