Category Affective Leadership

Those Awkward Emotions

December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Peer Powered Performance

We are settling in with my Mom and Dad who will be with us for the next four months while their house is being built.    It is surprising the childhood triggers that surface in close proximity.  As usual there are always great lessons.  The most significant this morning is how difficult it is to embrace honesty in a culture (family) steeped in history...

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Do you despise Motivational Speakers?

December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Peer Powered Performance

Despite being in the profession for almost two decades and receiving a designation earned by less than 10% of professional speakers[i] I am uncomfortable introducing myself as a “motivational speaker”.  Last week when asked to introduce myself to a class on the value of internal social networks I said; “Most people describe me as a ‘Motivational Speaker’ which simply means I get people excited to hear about things they will forget within the week”...

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Are a few BAD APPLES costing you 40%

December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Peer Powered Performance

I always believed that Emotional Intelligence (EQ) education was most effectively addressed as individual sets of skills, but I no longer think that is true.  EQ comes in communities.  We have all seen very high EQ people behave in very unconscious ways given the right-wrong environment.  We have also observed very unconscious people lifted to new levels of awareness simply by being in the presence of those few fearless among us...

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Confessions of an EQ FAILURE

December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Emotional Intelligence

I recently “pressured” my parents, who are well into their “golden years”, into leaving their beloved Pacific Northwest to live near us here in Boise.  My wife and I spent months creating as much space and comfort as possible so we could all live together comfortably for the five months it would take for their house to be built.  Our cohabitation lasted three weeks.  I failed not just miserably but spectacularly.  I intellectually knew what to do but in the heat of the moments it seemed ...

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Peer Power Primer

December 15, 2021 Affective Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Peer Powered Performance, Positive Deviance

How would you create a culture that attracts 1000 applicants for every position like Zappos or grows its customer base fivefold in just four years as HCL Technologies did?    Few would expect to learn the secrets of success from a small town credit union in Boulder City, Nevada, or a rural hospital in Southern Arizona, but wouldn’t you like to know how to create a team that can increase assets by 270% while only adding one employee, or how to be so honest with your board that they plead with you...

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